Sunday, March 16, 2014
Sorry for the late posting everyone! Thanks to Colton I just found out it was my turn to blog. Hopefully you can all get it done. I decided to stray away from poetry and what we have been learning and turn this week's discussion into one on families. We are all getting excited to graduate and leave. In most cases, we will all be going out and leaving our families. Right now we are all really looking forward to making our own decisions (I am anyway), but after a few months at college will we look back and miss our families? Will we appreciate everything they've done for us a little bit more? I've been thinking about this a lot since I will be leaving halfway across the world in a few months, and I want to know what you all think. Are we the kind of people today because of our parents? Do we think the same way? Where do our ethics come from? What roles do mothers and fathers play in their children's lives? How is a child impacted when one of these figures is missing in their life? Can someone act as a mother/father/bother/sister figure in someone's life?
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I think that our parents have a huge effect on how we react to the world. We either catch on to their habits and make them our own, or we dislike the way they deal with something and do it the opposite way. I think in most cases we take for granted all that they do for us, until they are not there to do it anymore. I definitely believe that we will miss the way things are at home with the family. We become used to the way the days goes at out house and this causes us to be uncomfortable in a different setting. I know that I personally have picked up a lot of habits from both of my parents, I then take these acquired habits and mix them so they become my own habits. It is very possible, in my opinion, for someone to fill in as a missing link in a family. While they might never fill the hole completely, they are able to provide guidance and comfort that some people sorely need.
ReplyDeleteI agree that we will miss the way things are at home. We all strive for a certain comfort. When that comfort is taken from us, we start to feel insecure. I know I worry about things being different. Leaving our parents has both positive and negative feelings for all of us. I just think that I will be in some large city all on my own with no one looking out for me. I believe that the first few months will be the hardest in our lives away from home. Many of us will react differently. Some will have an easier time with change compared to others. This could be due to how we were raised.
DeleteI believe that one's parents are the most influencial people in our lives. They are the people that we have been with the longest. I believe that we may act like the people that we are around. I definately think that after we move out we will begin to appreciate them more and more. Our family teaches us how we act and often what we believe. Anyone can be a part of someone's family if they are with that person enough. Family, I believe, is more of a psychological term rather than a scientific term. People who are related to us may not be considered family for some people due to their lack of influence within your life. It varies for each and every person.
ReplyDeleteI agree that people who influence us are considered to be family. We are most comfortable with the people that we are around. When distant relatives come and visit a person is more likely to act in a way that would please the relatives, just to keep the peace. This is just one way that people around us influence our behavior. They either can show us how to act, or affect the way we act.
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DeleteColton, you have an interesting perspective when you say that families are psychological rather than scientific. I agree! Although people may be from the same bloodline, it does not necessarily guarantee that they will care for and love each other. The people that establish real relationships with each other, who show that they care for each other, and who support each other are the people that are truly family.
DeleteI think that we are who we are today because of our parents, yes. The moment that we are born, the people and places around us impact us. We observe the actions and behaviors of our parents and of the people that surround us as we grow. The way that our parents treat us helps carve who we are, as well as the way that they live their lives in general. Having a mother and father figure in one's life is huge. As humans, we naturally need and crave the reassurance of someone's care. Even as adults, we find comfort in our home bases. I think that home bases, however, do not just have to be one's childhood home and family. People may not have a sister or a brother, but we may establish best friends and figures who fill the spaces of a blood sibling or parent. Also, I think that everyone needs love. If we cannot find comfort from our home or families, we can find it in others who come into our lives. Spouses and close friends provide a kind of unconditional love that can also be found in the relationships of families.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that close friends and spouses/significant others can be as close or even closer than some relatives. I have a few friends that are definitely closer than some of my relatives, quite a few of whom I have never spoken to. It's interesting that we actively seek companionship from among others even if they are not related to us.
DeleteI like how you said that the world impacts us from the second we enter it. When you said how we "observe" everything from our parents and other influences as we grow made me start thinking about how it affects us in each stage of our lives. In each mindset during our growing, we will interpret our surroundings differently. This is something that is really interesting because it goes hand in hand with development of the brain. At each age, we have not on,y different ideas and experiences, but also a different way of thinking within the brain based off of maturity. People are very interesting and we are set up so that we soak up the things our parents do so that we can learn for the future.
DeleteIn reply to whether we will miss our families, I think we all will, to some extent. We are all looking forward to being able to have more freedom in our daily lives, and be able to make our own decisions, but I think that we will all miss the things that our parents do for us. For many of us, our parents make our dinner, wash our clothes, buy groceries, and generally take care of us. When we leave, we're going to have to do everything ourselves, and that's a daunting idea. Sure, we'll get used to it after some time, and we already know how to do most of it ourselves, but we will have to do everything. That includes getting a job and providing for ourselves. We're all going to miss the niceties of home after a while. In relation to family being influential in our lives, I agree wholeheartedly that our parents influence us as we grow up. Kids in good homes generally turn out to be good adults, and kids in bad homes generally turn out bad, because they never learned common courtesy from their parents. Our family influences us from the moment we're born, be it good or bad.
ReplyDeleteDevelopmentally, we are all ready to go, because it is naturally time. This is why we have such a desire to get out. Growing up within our households throughout all of our ages has brought us to this point in our lives where we are gearing up to become our own person. Our parents have (hopefully) done their job of setting us up for success. We have learned almost everything from them and that is a way of life because then we use all of our tools when we are on our own. Even if some of us are not willing to accept it, we are fully capable of being on our own at this point. Once each of us gets to our new places that next year is bringing, we can learn a new lifestyle and how to adjust. I definitely believe that once we a invested and the rush of the beginning is over, we are bound to miss home and our families. This is also natural because we have added on to our places of commitment and we will start to wish we could be in all of our places at once. No matter how much we love being in a new life next year, we will still have a love for home and wish to be there at times. I have experienced this feeling on a small scale from working away from home all summer. I loved the environment I was in and did nit want to leave it, but I also wanted to be home at the same time. Last summer definitely helped set me up for college life. Something we have to remember, though, is that we are moving forward in life and that if everyone else makes it through, so can we.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on it being the "natural time" for us to leave. We are finding our own independence and more often than not, our independence is clashing with our parents. But, this is part of the process of growing up. I know that I cannot wait to leave and start living my life the way I want. I also know that as soon as I do that, I will miss having my parents right there whenever I need them. Like you, I have only experienced this in small doses. Most of the time, I wasn't away from home for a long enough amount of time for the thrill to die down and the homesickness to set in. I think that the hardest part for me will be having to manage money. I know I can cook, do laundry, and get places on time, but it will be difficult to pay for things that I never had to pay for. For example, I probably won't pay five dollars for a pencil anymore.
DeleteMost of us are lucky enough to come from a loving and caring family who we will miss when we leave. Our parents have influenced us throughout our entire lives, both good and bad. I think that the goal of most parents is to give their children more opportunities than they ever had. Right now, we may not be able to see what they are trying to do with because we are focused on developing our individuality. But, soon after we leave, I think that we will all have a better insight of everything our parents did for us. I also do not think that a parent has to be biological in order to be a good parental figure. It is important that the parent figure cares and is in the child's life.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sarah that all are families care tons about us and are doing everything they can to give us a good life. They want us to go on and live on our own and be accomplished and have a happy adulthood. We can not even comprehend all our parents have done for us to give us a good childhood. I feel all our parents have done exactly what they are suppose to and we all have turned out to be great kids prepared for whatever comes our way.
DeleteI feel parents play a huge role in the development of children. I think that a lot of kids of today take their parents for granite and I think we are all going to get hit hard when we go to live on our own. But what matters is how we take the hit if we react well we will make it if we don't we might be that kid that lives with his parents the rest of his life. I think that not only parents impact our lives but so do the siblings. Siblings are who make us tuff. Without them we may not be able to handle bullies at jobs or some customer who is mean or show love to those who deserve it. With a family that has love, dispute, and unity, I feel they are a true family that prepares there kids for the future.
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